Odd occurrence of late, in the past week, three different models asked me if I could teach them how to style. Odd, first of all, because I’ve never held the delusion that I had any style a’tall. I am after all, just a silly Cao with rather eclectic tastes in fashion. Secondly, I’ve always been under the assumption that style couldn’t be learned, that you either have it, or you don’t. The rest of us just muddle on through the best we can. But I thought about it over night and here are some ideas that have worked for me.
The first is very important, and also why I became a blogger for consumer’s instead of designers. There are a lot of very stylish outfits out there, but if you don’t personally like them, you aren’t going to pull the look off effectively. My regular readers probably remember the times I’ve said, I don’t normally wear gowns, but I love this one. Well no truer statement could be made, I feel in gowns, the gown is wearing me, I become a mannequin to the outfit, more or less. Don’t get me wrong, I would never wear an outfit to blog that I didn’t love, I just think if I had my druthers I would show my style in another way. The gown isn’t a bad thing, it’s just not my personal “style.” So the most important step to learning how to style, is learning the type of clothing you like, so the clothes you wear become an expression of your personality.
The second biggest step, is to learn about style. I live in a podunk drinking village with a fishing problem, so the modicum of style is typically jeans, bathing suits, foots or flip-flops. It makes for easy morning wardrobe decisions, but it’s not exactly going to land anyone on the “best dressed list” of any publication. So study. Peruse fashion magazines, google pictures on fashion, check out the fashion shows and fashion weeks on YouTube and find out whats new, what’s in, and what’s not. Stylish is a commitment to rise above average, so it takes a little bit of work. I actually keep a bit of a “fashion scrapbook” with ideas to try, things to look for, that way if I get stuck for a style, I have immediate inspiration at my fingertips. (I use Pinterest for this)
The next one may seem kind of silly for an avatar, but know when clothes “fit” you. Nothing could be truer at this point with the introduction of so many mesh products on the market. As an Asian, I am thinner than most models and as you know, most mesh comes with lots of curves. Rather than getting into a viscious cycle of changing my shape, I specifically look for slimmer cuts, with more reasonable layers. Otherwise I look like I am wearing a burlap sack.
I want to put the next two thoughts here because they work with each other. Know how to put outfits together. You can have a lot of really cool single pieces but together they don’t necessarily mean style. Frankly, sometimes they look like you threw stuff at yourself and it just stuck. Back it off some and always look at yourself critically. Know what colors play nicely together, know what colors work well with your skin tone. Don’t assume that since your are an avatar the seasonal color charts don’t apply to you, they still do, very much so. See “Runway Modeling-color wheel by Mimmi Boa” page on the left for more info on this. The second hand of this concept is, don’t limit yourself to “brand” names. The brand names designers have become base points for a good reason, their items are consistently good, but there are a lot of other designers out there with great items as well. I commented to one of these friends last week to not “throw” an outfit on. Put it on piece by piece and remember its pieces because oft, you can take simple elements of one outfit and combine with another and it can have some amazing results. It’s like you get to be the designer without the labor of creating the pieces. But watch the colors, not all blacks or reds are created equally, and that spells fashion disaster.
Last and certainly not least important, accessorize! It can make a great outfit one worthy of a top model. However, understand, having a ton of jewelry on does not make an outfit stylish. Know how much is too much, is the outfit in need of a bold statement or just a complimentary touch up? Do you really need a hat or is the hairstyle the focal piece? Sometimes the accessory or lack thereof is the most profound statement a model can make.
Take from? Of course! Get crazy and creative and build your style around you! This is what I mean about style can’t be taught, you either get it or you don’t. You have to learn it by learning about you first and no one knows you quite as well as you do!
Hair: D!va, Yuri 3
Jewelry: Finesmith, Sarit *new*
Dress: Baiastice, Aida *new*
Leggins: Peqe, Cornucopia
Shoos: Gizza, Studded Boot *New*
Pouffe: [Gos] oOoo Includes poses *New*
Pic2 Pose: LibDescent, Ocean *New*
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Great works and wise words<3
thank you for the beautyful pose! I love them all (and you Lib <333)
Beautiful and very interesting post! I’m totally agree with Lib :***
=***** One is truly loved when lifted up on the wings of their family <33 thank you both for all of your constant support!
Wondeful insight in this post now granted as a man Ive not worn a gown in many years 😉 But the statement of wearing the garment and not having it wear you is so very true. The same hold true for men as well. Granted I may be a shaky painter, but i do own 8 very nice hand made suites from around the world. And people have literally choked hearing how much I paid for a pair of shoes, but hey whats a fella to do. Always stand back and take a look, just beacuse its your “fav” doesnt mean you look good in it. Anyhow dear what color should your world be today?
You have given me closet envy! I’d love to own just one made for me suit. And I have to state here, no shoos are safe when I am around! Better keep them on your foots or a Lil Cao will take them for her own. =D And you, my dearest Benjamin are in no way a “shaky painter.” Your creations are a divine feast for the eyes! So let’s see, today my plain white walls wish to wear the creamy colors of the dunes, with the caress of the azure ocean, mellowed with the robin’s egg blue of the sky and a blanketing of the pillowy fluffiness of the clouds as they race playfully amongst all the colors! What color is your world today, dear friend?
I will show you shortly, I found some of the beginnings today so everyone gets to be time travelers today.
i can’t wait to see! =)))
Btw I’m highly intrigued that you use sim style avatars in your blog, very interesting concept. I like.
I am, afterall, merely an avatar of a Second Life, with an unfortunate wish to blog! =D
oh! forgot to mention! You were pinned! 🙂
Lovely I’m honored. 😉
Bravo!! Thank you for posting this. I absolutely agree that you either have a natural sense for style or you don’t, but that also goes hand in hand with knowing who you are. I once read a fabulous rule of thumb, for someone just learning how to build their style…when you are finished putting your look together…take a good look at yourself and take one thing off. The reasoning behind this… when we are just learning what our individual style is, we often over think it…so taking one thing off helps to remind us that less is often best in refining a look. It has served me well.
You are fabulous <3<3
very wise and very true Xiu! Thank you for adding persepctive! =))
Cao styleeee sorry, take it off. put another piece on. yes -> does it look finished? yes -> yay, you’re all good. no -> put another piece on. then go back to the first question and keep on going till your answers are all yes 😀
wut, what the hell, this is not what i wrote……… cut the middle piece out entirely :-// Just my luck. No wonder I get misunderstood…
you’re a nutter Bodza! =D
Ok I typed it in notepad first let’s hope it works 😀 So here’s what I meant to say before (as closely as I can remember the words):
Cao style sorry, take it off, put another piece on. yes -> does it look finished? yes -> yay, you’re all good. no -> put another piece on. then go back to the first question and keep on going till your answers are all yes. 😀
This is seriously what the hell….. and it keeps cutting the same bit out :DDD
Cao style (heart sign 😉 )
By the way I heard this so many times: “Describe your style” I can not 😀 It’s like “whatever Bodza fancies style” and I think many of us feels the same (just replace my name with yours 😉 ).
As for how to style I could give a shorter answer 😀 Put your piece of clothing on. Does it look good? No -> sorry, take it off, put another piece on. yes -> does it look finished? yes -> yay, you’re all good. no -> put another piece on. then go back to the first question and keep on going till your answers are all yes. 😀
and not only a nutter, quite prolific at the solitary converse! 😉
i worked really hard on this comment. i couldn’t leave it ridiculed by some pffff… and also i didn’t want to be misunderstood, not this time, noooooo 😀
Wise words, great advise I do mood boards cutting up my magazines, but helping me put my style visions together.
Mood boards are a wonderful tool to use! Great idea! ❤
Cao! This is a great article and one that I agreed with on most points. It was also infused with some humor (drinking village with a fishing problem hehe).
I’ve often stated your first point to many people that you cannot learn style. Everyone has style but each person’s style is different. If you plan on attending an academy or take private lessons to learn to style you’ll be wasting your money. Rather, attend that school, or take those lessons, to learn the basics of a particular style such as avant garde or minimalism and then incorporate it into your own personal style.
You also mentioned experimentation with different outfits from different designers. This technique seems to have gotten lost somewhere as I see many newer models buying clothes off the rack and just slapping them on. Granted, if you’re doing a vendor ad for a particular designer that would be a no-no unless you had expressed permission. I’m speaking mainly about blogging or day-to-day-around-the-grid wear. Also, don’t be afraid to mix ‘n match mesh clothing either because it’s definitely possible!
Oh, I could go on and on but you covered quite a bit so I’m just adding my 2 cents for what it’s worth. I think I’ll finish with a quote from Mimmi Boa who has often said “Do not copy others, but let others copy you!”. Great post Miss Cao ♥
Just love my Aunty Mimm’s! My fave teacher, ever! Thanks Linda so much for adding your perspective! I just hope no one ever copies me, *cough* Frolic would have a fit… 😀