Me and Dr. Ben

Me and Dr. BenNecklace: Kunglers, Ivatan . Hairs: Wasabi Pills, Cora .

I made the off the cuff comment last week that I didn’t think I would ever get married because I couldn’t get past picturing Taylor in old age, balding, wrinkly, letting himself “go.” Sure I said it all in jest. Mostly.. I suppose… But he was a little taken aback by it all and assured me he’d never let himself go anywhere, but more importantly he explained to me that if you love someone, a lot of the time those little unimportant details no longer matter so much. Obviously as a, ummm, did I say my nickname for him is Dr. Ben Dover? Well, as that sort of doctor most of his patients are of the geriatric variety, and to further enhance his point about details not mattering he told me this story:

Me and Dr. BenMecklace: Kungler’s, Tamarindo . Hair: D!va, Miso .

An elderly husband and wife noticed that they were beginning to forget many little things around the house. They were afraid that this could be dangerous, as one of them may accidently forget to turn off the stove and thus cause a fire.

So, they decided on their visit to Dr. Ben they would ask his opinion. Taylor (aka Ben) told them that many people their age find it useful to write themselves little notes as reminders. The elderly couple thought this sounded wonderful, and left the office very pleased with the advice.

When they got home, the wife said, “Dear, will you please go to the kitchen and get me a dish of ice cream? And why don’t you write that down so you won’t forget?”

“Nonsense,” said the husband, “I can remember a dish of ice cream!”

“Well,” said the wife, “I’d also like some strawberries on it. You better write that down, because I know you’ll forget.”

“Don’t be silly,” replied the husband. “A dish of ice cream and some strawberries. I can remember that!”

“OK, dear, but I’d like you to put some whipped cream on top. Now you’d really better write it down now. You’ll forget,” said the wife.

“Come now, my memory’s not all that bad,” said the husband. “No problem — a dish of ice cream with strawberries and whipped cream.”

And with that, the husband shut the kitchen door behind him. The wife could hear him getting out pots and pans, and making some noise inconsistent with his preparing a dish of ice cream, strawberries, and whipped cream. He emerged from the kitchen about 15 minutes later.

Walking over to his wife, he presented her with a plate of bacon and eggs.

The wife took one look at the plate, glanced up at her husband and said, “Hey, where’s the toast?”

The take from? I figured he may be on to something, because I probably will never remember what he used to look like anyways. Besides, I am about at that mental point myself already these days. I’ll write myself a note to let you know what I decide. If I can just remember where I put my pencil and paper.

15 thoughts on “Me and Dr. Ben

  1. I loved this! My husband and I are two of those people that came to the table past the “looks mean everything” stage and daily we find both challenges and joys to celebrate…it is wonderful. My relationship with him has truly taught me to let go, enjoy and trust. After all he is the best place to call home. ❤ ❤

  2. I’ve noticed the older we get, the less important looks are, and if you love someone she/he will look good in your eyes anyway. I’m as far from the beauty standard as the earth is from the moon, but my other half always treats me like I was the most beautiful woman in the world. He ain’t exactly Brad Pitt, either, but despite of my occasional Brad-ramblings, I’d not trade him for even 1000 Brads. 😀

  3. I think this is about your mom and dad and alzheimer disease. I pray for you and them. When you see your precious loved ones deteriorate, it’s hard and sometimes unbearable. I related to your post because I’ve been there. It had humor, and that is a positive sign of healing, You are a lovely person, talented and a beautiful young woman and life will give you it’s best. I’m sure of it. Just keep on doing what you are doing and you will be victorious. I am proud that you spoke about you experience as a MVW contestant. Women and girls need to know what is behind these contests. It’s always someone else who is making money off their desire, talent and abilities. Do what you love and the rest will follow. You don’t need someone else validation of your worth. Just look at your fab photos and styling over this year. Hello world!

    1. actually sugarpie, my dad died in December, but yes to watch this big stellar person in your like fade to so little is life changingly tragic. I still have very bad moments thinking of it. The story was just supposed to bring a small cheer to those about me. And for the MVW comment, I LOVED my time at MVW, I was actually speaking of a certain meta-something or other contest that I would never be a part of for just the reasons you so wisely stated. Thank you so much for your kind words and friendship Niki. ❤

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