Happiness often sneaks in through a door you didn’t know you left open. ~John Barrymore
I am going to try to be succinct and to the point today, I’ve a banger of a headache. I was recently interviewed for a magazine article and a comment made in the inworld Miss Virtual World Academy group chat reminded me of one of my answers to a question and I think it bears repeating here. In the group an instructor admonished a conversation among models about not bad mouthing others and being professional at all times. To the conversing parties, I know you want to be an upper echelon model, or perhaps you are, I don’t know as this was never a goal of mine in Second Life, I’d find such a goal to be akin to wanting to catch a unicorn to ride to work, because face it, it’s not real. But this thought bears speaking of in regards to real life as well, because it is the foundation of living a happy life.
Worry less about what other people think of you, a beautiful life is about spending your time passionately, being happy with who you are inside, and not worrying about everyone’s petty judgments. If you want to achieve greatness, stop asking for everyone’s approval. You don’t need anyone’s approval to be happy or to follow your heart. Plan to outdo your past, not other people, because people, like rivers, constantly change. Deliver results, even when making excuses is easier. Quit taking shortcuts. Stop relying on quick fixes, or blaming others, or relying on “I’ll do it tomorrows.” Enough with the excuses, we all know them for what they are, whether we are giving them or hearing them. Refrain from feeling sorry for yourself. We all know what it’s like to go through a rough patch. The strongest, happiest, most successful people are not those who always win, but are those who don’t give up when they lose. They fail forward. So keep calm when everything seems to be going wrong. You may feel weak, but your spirit is strong. Be patient and don’t rush life. Practice patience and keep a good attitude while working hard for what you believe in and oft you will find though you might not be right were you expected to be, where you are is beyond your dreams.
The take from? Spend more time with the right people. And if you know the people around you aren’t the right people, you need to change the people around you. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it. Don’t expect to see positive changes in your life if you surround yourself with negative people. And if you are the negative people, learn to change your outlook. Don’t give part-time people a full-time position in your life. Know your value and what you have to offer, and never settle for relationships that always bring you down. Forgive those who wronged you and move on, kindness isn’t a sign of weakness, nor is forgiveness a sign of acceptance, it’s merely a willingness to be a strong person, admit people make mistakes, forgive and move on. When life is good, instead of looking for the “next best thing” stop a minute and be thankful and enjoy what you have because happiness never comes to those who don’t appreciate what they have. It might not be what you want for your future but it’s all you need right now. Well looky der, my headache is gone. I am happy. Life is good.