Letting Go and Falling Forward

“There are some things in this world you rely on, like a sure bet. And when they let you down, shifting from where you’ve carefully placed them, it shakes your faith, right where you stand.”  ~ Sarah Dessen, Someone Like You    

Mondays Gone

There was a job opening at my real life employment recently and six people from my department put in for it because it was an increase in pay. Not being a job I am interested in, I am glad I didn’t even bother. I am at the point in my life where I am comfortable, so I would have to really enjoy the change to make a move because money isn’t one of my working motivations any more, becoming gainfully unemployed is (retiring). But also, having put in for promotions in the past when money was a fascination to me and having been passed over for less-suitable card carrying clique members, I knew the odds of getting the promotion were slim to nil. Unfortunately, one of my good friends did put in for it. The sad part was, he not only has a college degree, he already has real world job experience in the field the promotion entails so when he was passed over for a person with no experience, less employment with the company and no college at all, the feeling was devastating for him. I cheered him up best I could, but seriously, what would make this any better? It was blatantly obvious to everyone with a brain what just happened.

Falling Forward

At the same time last week, I did something I rarely do. I applied to be a blogger for a designer. I really don’t know why I applied, I’ve not done so in years. I guess my only excuse is I wear this designers product on my avatar almost exclusively every day and when you blog almost 365 days of the year, that’s an awful lot of blogging. I am certainly sure the bloggers they picked were amazing, and much better at their skill sets than me, I am a self-professed “point and shoot” photographer at best, but it still smarted my ego just a little. Well, maybe not my ego, but it did momentarily disappoint me. And no, I don’t think I am “entitled,” I think it a natural human response. But you know what? I did the only thing I could do. I did the exact same thing I mentioned to my friend at work. I stepped back, I ranted at the loss to my besty, I cried a second or two, I got a little angry, and then I thought, “if I can look up, I can get up.” And I did just that, I adjusted my thinking, I began to wonder why I gave such loyalty, was it because I was too lazy to look around? And why would I want to give exclusive loyalty to a designer who feels none for me? So I made one of the best decisions of my life. I dusted off my big girl knickers and moved on. And at the end of the day, I am so glad I did because I went out and explored new options. And after much exploration, I found a product that I like more than the product I was wearing all this time and it was right there being offered by a friend I know who appreciates and respects me.

The take from? In all things in life there is give and take, but when you are doing all the giving and someone else all the taking, it may be time to move on. Whether it’s a personal relationship or a working one, you are just as important as the other person in the relationship, no matter their position. I somehow truly believe that if you do move on, you will find something as good as, but probably much better than what you had before. Because the bottom line is just like them, you are worth something.



Hat: Miamai, Kotoshiro-Nushi-Kami  @We ❤ RP
Hair: *Argrace*, Yuzu  **NEW**
Earrings: ieQED, Araw
Glasses: *+crie style+*, Scioilto
Necklace: [Mandala], Nyorai
Jacket: [Celoe], Rossi
Belt: [Celoe], Abel
Pants: *LpD*, New Boho pant
Bag: [Celoe], Sack bag barley
Ring: P.C., The Envy Ring
Skin: Clef de Peau, Liu  **NEW**
Hands/Feet: SLink
Pose: .slouch

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29 thoughts on “Letting Go and Falling Forward

  1. Lookatchoo, with that artsy fartsy hat! You look FABulous! We have a saying here.. borstjes vooruit en lipjes getuit.. roughly translated means, keep your head up and pucker up.. Which you did! And did it mahvelous dahlink! ❤

  2. Seems like I am going over this over and over again. Time to put on my big girl panties and move on. Thank you Cao for again being the voice of reason. ♥♥

    1. I think for whatever their “reason” is, Dani, we just have to realize we may not be OK for them, but we are more than A-OK for so many others so lets enjoy what we have and agreed, lets move on! ❤

  3. What a sass Queen you are in that outfit!! Just LOVE it! And good for you for moving on … best decision you made! In moving forward, away from pain and anger, there is always another option, another door that is open. I’m looking for that very thing right now! Love to you, Cao! (((HUGS))) Amy

  4. Wow, I am simply flummoxed, bamboozled, baffled and generally discombobulated that ANY designer would turn you down Cao, one of the best bloggers in SL. Heck, college degree?, when it comes to blogging you have an MIT Masters certificate complete with the red ribbons and little gold tassel-y bits. They are quite simply….idiots, whoever they are. You go girl 🙂

  5. Your words today hit the spot for something in my life.. so thank you for that. I like this outfit on you.. sorry for your slight disappointment.. though having seen how things generally appear in terms of these things.. popularity.. not what you do but who you know..etc. I learned not to take it personally. I don’t care to be popular.. to suck up.. or to hit the like button because you liked something of mine… let me stop before I go on a rant. 🙂

      1. It’s good enough for me. 🙂 Keep being you.. open about everything and writing for the masses on life and not just what you’re wearing. Different perspectives are always helpful for those who have ears to listen and ponder a new way of seeing things. Back to digging my head into work.

    1. naw, I am sure they picked the best of the bunch, I was just wallowing with the potbelly’s for a day. I am much better, back to other side of the pasture with the cows, and on to better things. 😀 Thanks Bella Boo!!!

  6. You look awesome little cowhow ❤
    Love i had that same feeling, i felt even stupped also for thinking that maybe…well just maybe.
    Time to look further. I could say some dutch lines but you know how they sound in english hahaha

  7. Wonderful blogpost, Cao, I enjoyed it and had a lot of ‘oh yes, yes and YES’ when it comes to the first – real life career/job – part. Been there, done it, went and got positions that were money-motivated, they costs me 10 yrs of my life (in 4 years…) and eventually I – the ever so loyal employee and hard worked – got made redundant after 23 year. Speaking of disappointment and anger..ahem. I stepped back big time,. BIG TIME. I am still on my way back, but now as self employed, new adventures ahead. (still a tad angry over what happened sometimes, but over the bitterness…). As for SL. I try to keep it 100 % leisure and fun.
    No commitments, no applying = no disappointment. Simple eh? Then again, i dont blog fashion or products, so that makes it slightly different.
    As for you, you are amazing and it is their loss to not accept your application, but you don’t need them in the end to be a fabulous person and blogger :). Also the new..ahem…product looks awesome on you, I saw what you did x

    1. I love you, you know that! And yes, I knew you would, us having spoken of this particular designer in the past 😉 ❤ as an aside, I was angry on your behalf when you were made "redundant", there is nothing redundant about you, but I know that you were meant for better things in life. I am so happy my friend has picked her self and marches on to these things. Big Kiss Caity!

  8. Hi my little Moo, you have, do and always will dust off your knickers and not only look up but ahead. I can’t imagine any designer that doesn’t choose you but I find your blogs more about life than about SL fashion. That is why I follow you and read every single one. I also get onto you when you only do a quick fashion blog with no words. Sure I look at your fab styling, your sometimes very whimsical photos, your props and well everything in the photos really, but what I love most is what you have to say and that is why I came, it is also why I stay. You just keep being you and don’t ever let a rejection cast a shadow on that bright pretty face. Loves you Dollface ❤

  9. lol, yes am moved unemployed,out of insurance and am in shoes. I can’t walk but for a few minutes at a time and it is colder here but other than that life is just wonderful….almost like a clean slate ….sort of lol

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