I'm.A.Limited.Edition Pose: [Gos] oOOoo, Pouffe

Odd occurrence of late, in the past week, three different models asked me if I could teach them how to style. Odd, first of all, because I’ve never held the delusion that I had any style a’tall. I am after all, just a silly Cao with rather eclectic tastes in fashion. Secondly, I’ve always been under the assumption that style couldn’t be learned, that you either have it, or you don’t. The rest of us just muddle on through the best we can. But I thought about it over night and here are some ideas that have worked for me.

The first is very important, and also why I became a blogger for consumer’s instead of designers. There are a lot of very stylish outfits out there, but if you don’t personally like them, you aren’t going to pull the look off effectively. My regular readers probably remember the times I’ve said, I don’t normally wear gowns, but I love this one. Well no truer statement could be made, I feel in gowns, the gown is wearing me, I become a mannequin to the outfit, more or less. Don’t get me wrong, I would never wear an outfit to blog that I didn’t love, I just think if I had my druthers I would show my style in another way. The gown isn’t a bad thing, it’s just not my personal “style.” So the most important step to learning how to style, is learning the type of clothing you like, so the clothes you wear become an expression of your personality.

The second biggest step, is to learn about style. I live in a podunk drinking village with a fishing problem, so the modicum of style is typically jeans, bathing suits, foots or flip-flops. It makes for easy morning wardrobe decisions, but it’s not exactly going to land anyone on the “best dressed list” of any publication. So study. Peruse fashion magazines, google pictures on fashion, check out the fashion shows and fashion weeks on YouTube and find out whats new, what’s in, and what’s not. Stylish is a commitment to rise above average, so it takes a little bit of work. I actually keep a bit of a “fashion scrapbook” with ideas to try, things to look for, that way if I get stuck for a style, I have immediate inspiration at my fingertips. (I use Pinterest for this)

The next one may seem kind of silly for an avatar, but know when clothes “fit” you. Nothing could be truer at this point with the introduction of so many mesh products on the market. As an Asian, I am thinner than most models and as you know, most mesh comes with lots of curves. Rather than getting into a viscious cycle of changing my shape, I specifically look for slimmer cuts, with more reasonable layers. Otherwise I look like I am wearing a burlap sack.

I'm.Not.Weird. Pose- LibDescent “Ocean”

I want to put the next two thoughts here because they work with each other. Know how to put outfits together. You can have a lot of really cool single pieces but together they don’t necessarily mean style. Frankly, sometimes they look like you threw stuff at yourself and it just stuck. Back it off some and always look at yourself critically. Know what colors play nicely together, know what colors work well with your skin tone. Don’t assume that since your are an avatar the seasonal color charts don’t apply to you, they still do, very much so. See “Runway Modeling-color wheel by Mimmi Boa” page on the left for more info on this. The second hand of this concept is, don’t limit yourself to “brand” names. The brand names designers have become base points for a good reason, their items are consistently good, but there are a lot of other designers out there with great items as well. I commented to one of these friends last week to not “throw” an outfit on. Put it on piece by piece and remember its pieces because oft, you can take simple elements of one outfit and combine with another and it can have some amazing results. It’s like you get to be the designer without the labor of creating the pieces. But watch the colors, not all blacks or reds are created equally, and that spells fashion disaster.

Last and certainly not least important, accessorize! It can make a great outfit one worthy of a top model. However, understand, having a ton of jewelry on does not make an outfit stylish. Know how much is too much, is the outfit in need of a bold statement or just a complimentary touch up? Do you really need a hat or is the hairstyle the focal piece? Sometimes the accessory or lack thereof is the most profound statement a model can make.

Take from? Of course! Get crazy and creative and build your style around you! This is what I mean about style can’t be taught, you either get it or you don’t. You have to learn it by learning about you first and no one knows you quite as well as you do!

Hair: D!va, Yuri 3
Jewelry: Finesmith, Sarit *new*
Dress: Baiastice, Aida *new*
Leggins: Peqe, Cornucopia
Shoos: Gizza, Studded Boot *New*
Pouffe: [Gos] oOoo Includes poses *New*
Pic2 Pose: LibDescent, Ocean *New*


gizza marlene peqe flowery tights boon ark554 la gyo bizarre flower Flowers are a Girls Best Friend

Today is about, well, being happy! Nothing can put a smile on my face quicker than nutella and marshmallow fluff, S’mores, hmmmm Macaroni and Cheese all gooey and warm, Sour Cream Cheesecake.. And no, I’m not losing my mind, though Draakje would probably say I lost it years ago.. Short blog today, the take from? Splurge every once in a while. It’s Friday, kick off your shoos! Surround yourself with happy, positive people who hang with you without having a “hidden agenda.” And only do, blog, model, work, at things you love and are passionate about. First life can be drudgery enough, let your Second Life be defined by YOU.

gizza skinny pants mesh bouse leather maitreya radical boots evi hairs and scarf mons lipstick Even a Cao can’t pass up these leather pants!

I wanted to share some of the newness from Giz Seorn of Gizza today. So many gorgie things so little time, so I took out some of my faves to share. Draakje loaned me the skinny pants, but honestly? She’s going to have to pry them off my inert body, because possession is nine-tenths of the law, right? Does that apply to virtual life as well? I sure hope so!

gizza military coat slim dirty jeans baiastice emi boots teefy cross body bag stripes zibs margo Cattywampus Cao

Have a wonderful weekend in whatever space of oxygenated Earth you live in! I enjoyed todays styles and I know you will too. I know you will love them so much I even included a taxi for you! Taxi:

Outfit One:

Dress: Gizza, “Marlene” *New*
Tights: Peqe, “flowery”
Hairs: Boon, “ARK554”
Hat: LaGyo, “Bizarre flowers”
Lipstick: Mons

Outfit Two:

Jacket: Gizza, “Mesh Blouse Leather” *Last Fall’s line*
Pants: Gizza, “Skinny pants” *New!*
Boots: Maitreya, “Radical Boots”
Hairs: Maitreya, “Evi” (with added scarf)
Nails & Ring: Mandala

Outfit 3:

Jacket: Gizza, “military Coat” *New!*
Jeans: Gizza, “slim dirty jeans”
Boots: Baiastice, “Emi” Boots
Hairs: Waka & Yuki
Bag: Teefy, “cross body bag”
Makeups: Zibska, “Margo”
Pose “Foot rests”, LOST ANGEL Industry ❤


The beginning of last week started out kindly, the days were warm and balmy, the cicadas serenaded me with their loud singing and the days mellowed into a lighter evening. Weeks like that, I love a gorgeous strappy “Lazy Sunday” sundress. Kallisto Destiny of Drift just released a pretty and chic set in multiple styles. Comfy and roomy the skirt flows softly as you walk, perfect for a lazy day spent out doors exploring, wetting the toes and enjoying the sun. SLURL under the “last knowns” page.

Sometimes, not often, but sometimes, Sundays in Second Life are difficult for me. Every time I try to complete a task, I am interrupted. Not a bad interruption, I rarely mind speaking with friends, it just seems like everyone contacts me on the same day or time. After trying to snap some pics, and chatting at the same time, I finally gave up on the pics and shouted “uncle.” Putting away the camera, I snuggled up in my most comfortable clothes and let the conversations and friendships encompass me. Life is good. Especially when wearing a soft and fuzzy “Cozy Sweater Dress” from Drift.

Outfit One:
Dress: Drift, “Lazy Sunday”
Flower: La Penderie de Nicole, “Rose Flower”
Hairs: LaViere, “Natasha”
Feet: *GA* “Bare Feet Pointed”

Outfit Two:
Dress: Drift, “Cozy Sweater Dress”
Hairs: Wasabi Pills, “brreee”
ArmWarmers: Maitreya
Socks: Peqe, “Wool Socks”
Shoos: Ispachi, “Seasons” (they color change, very cool!)


Recently, with so much joy, I watched a dear friend of mine turn forty. Forty. Such a milestone! I picture forty as standing on a precipice of Mont Blanc, as you look back you see all the pages of the life you have lived, the little mistakes, the big victories, all the dalliances, pains and joys that have softened your hard edges and just somehow made you softer, wiser, and perhaps nicer than you were at twenty. Hopefully we all become a little less opinionated and a little more forgiving because all we have lived will create the enlightened us of forty. And women always seem more in tune with themselves, more loving and somehow at their most beautiful at forty. Don’t you think?


As the woman of forty turns her view opposite, forward, she will see all the blank pages of her life story yet to be lived, experienced and written. She will intertwine the lessons, the histories, of the first forty years and in the second forty weave it into a more colorful, gorgeous tapestry of a life, a tapestry befitting royalty, a life, a love of those around them, a dedication written in the hearts of all those they have touched. You have already lovingly touched a soft piece of my heart, etched your name deeply, permanently there, my dear friend Mila. I am honored to see the beautiful you of forty, and will be equally honored to travel a few more steps with you as you live your history, as you continue to write your pages, my words dispersed in small snippets through your wonderful pages, I am honored to know I have had a small place there, even if only for the brief moments of letters written on the sand to be erased by the tides of the sea. One day, I may have washed away but at some point, even if only for the waxing and waning of a moon, I am here, I am with you, and I feel joy. Happy Birthday Mila! I hope you like the picture my darling Skip Staheli has made of the *SoliDea FoliEs* “40” dress you so kindly gave to us for your birthday.


On to business. I know this is what my dragon, Draakje Dailey, calls “Cao’s version of “Word and Peace.”” The International Model Agency is having a “Sydney Fashion Week’” beginning August 17th 2012 through August 22nd, 2012. *SoliDea FoliEs* will be having a show on August 19th, 2012 at 5AM SLT. Above is the gorgeously colorful, unique offering created by Mila Tatham exclusively for this event. It has so much of the exquisite colors and feel of a native aboriginal costume, I just had to have it! Isn’t it divine?

I hope you get the chance to support these hard working models by attending the shows. I know I will pop into a few just to see the exclusive apparel these wonderful designers have made! I hope you will too! Have a wonderful weekend!

Look One:
Dress: *SoliDea FoliEs* “40”
Hairs: Tuty’s, “wet look”
Hat: Miamai, “Memento Boreal”
Makeup: LovelyMi Makeups, “Aphrodite”
Tights: Peqe, “Unicef”